Warning: This article contains potentially triggering material about sexual assault and violence.
Michael Milosh, known for his R&B project Rhye, has been accused of sexual assault and grooming by his ex-wife Alexa Nikolas.
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Nikolas penned an open letter on Instagram called “Groomed by the Groom,” in which she detailed alleged physical abuse and financial manipulation, accusing Milosh of grooming her beginning at the age of 16.
Nikolas claims to have initiated contact with Milosh in 2008 after taking LSD in a cornfield when she was working as a child actress on Children of the Corn. According to a 2018 interview with Verse, Nikolas says that she sent Milosh a message saying, “‘Hi my name is Alexa. I like your music. If you’re ever in Los Angeles, I’d love to see you play.’ Two minutes later he responds ‘what’s your phone number’ and within a minute of responding I get a call from him.”
In the letter, Nikolas claims to have declined multiple invitations to meet up before she turned 18-years-old, but they still remained in touch during that time. “A lot of our conversations revolved around his photography, his music, and his desire to film me,” Nikolas wrote. “A lot of our conversations were via Skype video chat. They were all sexual and flirtatious. I can account on numerous occasions undressing upon his request.”
“On my 18th birthday he called me and asked me if I wanted to come visit him in Berlin, Germany,” Nikolas continues, detailing that she reportedly said yes and sent him money to rent an apartment that they would stay in together. Later on in their relationship, she believed that he asked for more than they needed and used the remaining money to pay rent for an apartment he shared with his then-girlfriend.
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On her first night in Germany, Nikolas alleges that Milosh raped her. “My first sexual experience with Milosh was the first night I arrived in Berlin,” Nikolas details. “I was 18 years old and he was 35 years old. I took a shower and was on my period, which I remember feeling good about because I didn’t want to sleep with him right away. I wanted to postpone sleeping together so we could get to know one another.”
As the night went on, Milosh reportedly played music for her and requested she take off her clothes. “I told him no, I’m on my period, and I don’t feel comfortable. He responded saying he doesn’t care about having sex while a girl is on her period. He also said he likes the taste of blood. I remember feeling very uncomfortable but I was attracted to him and I did not want our first sexual experience to be spoiled.”
“I did not respect my no and neither did he,” Nikolas says. Then, she claims that he kept repeating, “You have to relax,” before “He began to press his thumb into my ass. I told him no, that does not feel good, and he said to relax and trust him. I remember a tear coming out as he was looking down at me.”
“A week after returning home he sent the first song about me, ‘Major Minor Love,'” Nikolas claims. “He said that the line ‘A dark rhythm beating just behind’ was in reference to anal sex. Also the title was a play on words, major/minor key and the fact that I was a minor when we first started talking. In retrospect reading those lyrics is deeply disturbing.”
Nikolas says that she and Milosh continued a long-distance relationship through 2010 through to 2011, when he reportedly said he wanted to come visit her in Los Angeles but was “short of funds.” Nikolas claims that she then bought him a plane ticket, only to eventually discover that the trip to LA revolved around a previously planned music video shoot.
Nikolas says that she also learned of Milosh allegedly recording women he had sex with and putting the recordings in his songs. “In one of his songs ‘Don’t Call It’ he used the sound of me saying ‘No’ and reversed to saying ‘On,'” Nikolas writes. “This is one of many examples of Milosh bragging about sexual violence and exploiting women in his music.”
Around 2011, they moved in together, which is when Nikolas claims her mental health started deteriorating because of unrelated trauma. “Upon Milosh’s arrival I was not healed from that traumatic experience. I started to have panic attacks on a regular basis,” Nikolas says. “Instead of him being loving and supportive through it all he was abusive. He started telling me I had to get over it or I was going to become a loser as an adult.” Then, Nikolas says that when she would get upset, he would allegedly, “React by punching the refrigerator and candles. Creating multiple dents in the fridge and even hurting his own hand in the process.”
After dating for about six months, when Nikolas was 19-years-old, she says that Milosh asked her to marry him, to which she said yes. In 2013, their relationship reportedly deteriorated further, as Nikolas says she demanded an end to anal play, to which she says that Milosh stopped wanting intimacy with her.
Nikolas continues to claim that in 2015, Milosh admitted to raping a Jamaican girl when he was in his 20s, which reportedly sparked a panic attack for Nikolas. A few days later she says that she had another anxiety attack, claiming to have “pushed a swifter on the floor,” when he reportedly responded when he “charged at me, picked me up, pushed me on the couch, and pressed his forearm into my throat and continually screamed ‘shut the fuck up, shut the fuck up, shut the fuck up!’ I Couldn’t breathe.”
At the time of writing, Milosh has yet to share a statement on the claims. Read Nikolas’ statement in full below.